Once a trust is broken, as he find a way to earn this again, let yourself find a way to bring back that trust again. Meet halfway.:)
NO POINTING FINGERS
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too. "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
FORGIVE... and ACCEPT.. Those are the keys...
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
There will never be a perfect relationship. If we want to make things come our way, that's selfishness. We have to understand each other's flaws.. We are here to make our imperfect partner PERFECT.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
I've learned that you can never change a person no matter you want him to. It must be his will. It must be his choice. It will never be yours.. Let him and everything will fall in it's right places.
R IGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
As what was said, communication is irreversible. Be careful with what you say. It might change your life forever..
P ERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison.do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.
Just follow your heart and mind and pray..:) everything will be alright.
BE PATIENT
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Learn to forgive and forget.. I know, it will not be too easy.. Yes, it's very hard. But it's for the both of you..
Too much of everything is bad. Learn to live in moderation. Love moderately. Know your limitations. Warning: Love is dangerous. But try it, and you'll feel the best feeling ever.:)
*in bold letters: personal notes:)
