Enhancing relationships:)

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is  broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to   suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity   may result in separation. 


Once a trust is broken, as he find a way to earn this again, let yourself find a way to bring back that trust again. Meet halfway.:)





NO POINTING FINGERS 



We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.  "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."


FORGIVE... and ACCEPT.. Those are the keys...




CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS? 


There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins. 


There will never be a perfect relationship. If we want to make things come our way, that's selfishness. We have to understand each other's flaws.. We are here to make our imperfect partner PERFECT. 


NO OVERPOWERING 

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." 




I've learned that you can never change a person no matter you want him to. It must be his will. It must be his choice. It will never be yours.. Let him and everything will fall in it's right places. 


R IGHT SPEECH 

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party. 


As what was said, communication is irreversible. Be careful with what you say. It might change your life forever..


P ERSONAL PERCEPTION 

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison.do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear. 


Just follow your heart and mind and pray..:) everything will be alright.


BE PATIENT 


People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. 


Learn to forgive and forget.. I know, it will not be too easy.. Yes, it's very hard. But it's for the both of you..






Too much of everything is bad. Learn to live in moderation. Love moderately. Know your limitations. Warning: Love is dangerous. But try it, and you'll feel the best feeling ever.:)




*in bold letters: personal notes:)

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10 things you should not say in a relationship.

1. “You’re over-reacting.”While this may be true from an objective standpoint, she will never agree, at least not on the spot. No matter what she may be throwing at you, be that insults or ceramic knick-knacks, she believes she’s acting appropriately. So duck if you have to and then say something like this: “I don’t blame you for being upset, but I’d rather focus our energy on fixing the problem.”
2. “You’re not being logical.”Once again, you may be right, but that’s beside the point.  (Note that we said “may.”) When in the midst of a debate, one plus one can equal three. Put logic aside, and listen for the core matter as she sees it. Hopefully she’ll return the favor when you suggest, for instance, that because it’s the third Sunday of the month, it would be a crime against humanity if you didn’t go fishing.
3. “Who put that idea in your head, your mother?” On a calm day, your wife or main squeeze may concur that her mother is a bit “out there.” However, when you suggest that some beef or ideas of hers isn’t genuine and, instead, has been “planted” by her mother (or sister, or girlfriend), it suggests that she can’t think for herself. Treat her thoughts and ideas as her own, regardless of their origin.
4. “That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.”Well, maybe you need to read more, because whenever you feel you’ve heard the worst of ideas, just sample a few pages of the Darwin Awards. Don’t dismiss ideas outright. Instead, express what about the idea you don’t like. Even better, start by saying what you do like about the idea. Remember, someone once called the internal combustion engine a waste of gray matter.
5. “The other guys’ wives are cool with it.”Even if true, such statements really shouldn’t matter. Think about it this way: If your kid wanted to do something that you didn’t want him to, would the fact that another parent told his kid it was OK change your mind? We didn’t think so. What other wives or girlfriends are doing or saying should be of no concern. Make decisions for yourselves and leave others out of it. Or risk your wife telling you all about the “super-duper romantic” dinner some other husband put together for some other wife.
6. “After everything that I’ve done for you?!”This is playing the guilt card, which may work now and then, but at a steep cost. It suggests that, at the end of the day, your relationship is one based on points reflecting who’s done what for whom. And you might want to reflect long and hard before you suggest that such a score be tallied.
7. “You’ll feel differently tomorrow.”Maybe. Maybe not. Often, a good night’s rest provides a different perspective on life, right? And though this insight may be wise, none of us like to hear it. That’s because it suggests that something we’re upset, angry or passionate about now is just a passing fancy.
8. “You always (fill in the blank).” “You never (fill in the blank).”Definitive statements like these only poke the bear. In most of these cases ¾ “You never give me credit for what I do!” ¾ they’re not literally true and only come off as grandiose statements that hide the real concern or message. Talk, instead, in terms of “sometimes” and “only occasionally.” You’re more apt to be heard, even if you feel that never happens.
9. “You didn’t used to be this way.”Inherent in this statement is the implication that in whatever manner you suggest she “used to be,” that that was far better than the way she is now. Ouch!
10. “You’re missing the point.”When your wife hears this, it gets translated into “You’re not smart enough to understand what I obviously said so clearly and so brilliantly, so let me dumb it down for you.” If you really think she missed your point, then make your point again in a different way.

I'm indeed lucky:) ♥

Maswerte ka kung meron kang boyfriend na:

• Hinahatid ka sa sakayan mo pauwi. Kasi ayaw niyang mapahamak ka. Kung pwede nga lang, ihatid ka niya sa bahay niyo para sigurado.
• Handa kang ipaglaban sa mga taong hahadlang sa inyo. Yun bang “you and me against the world ang dating.”
• Ipapakilala ka sa pamilya niya. Sweet yun kasi kapag pinakilala ka niya, para na rin niyang sinabi na gusto ka niyang makasama at makasundo mo ang family niya dahil mahal na mahal ka niya.
• Hahawakan ang kamay mo kahit pasmado. Hindi siya choosy. Basta importante, mahawakan niya ang kamay mo.
• Magbabayad ng pamasahe mo kahit ayaw mo. Normal daw kasi sa lalaking magprovide. At nakakatapak ng ego kapag tinanggihan mo.
• Kapag natatakpan ng buhok mo ang mukha mo, hahawiin niya.Kasi gusto niyang makita ng maayos ang mukha mo.
• Yayakapin ka pag umiyak ka. Para tumahan ka na at malaman mong safe ka na.
• Kasasakay mo pa lang ng jeep/tricycle, itetext ka na ng “ingat ka” Just to make you smile.
• Aasarin ka, tapos pag naasar ka na, sasabihing “ang cute mo.” Trip lang. Pero sweet pa rin.
• Magtetext ng unexpected “I LOVE YOU”. Para lang maalala mong may nagmamahal sayong tulad niya.
• Tatawagan ka kahit hindi siya naka-unli call para lang kamustahin ka o i-update ka sa mga ginagawa niya. Para hindi ka magduda sa kanya.
• Proud na ilagay sa Facebook na IN A RELATIONSHIP siya sayo.Para malaman ng mga dati niyang friends ang tungkol sa inyo.
• Magpopost sa Wall mo ng mga sweet messages. Para pagbukas mo ng FB mo, pangalan agad niya ang makikita mo.
• Ginawa niyang wallpaper ang picture mo. Para araw araw pagbukas niya ng cellphone niya, ikaw agad ang maaalala niya

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There's more than those which makes me feel so lucky to have him:) ♥♥♥

I feel so loved:)

"Ang tunay na lalaki, nag-aalala kapag hindi nagtetext ang girlfriend niya. Di bale ng maging makulit, malaman lang niya ang safety niya.":) 


Natuwa lang ako dito sa post from tumblr.:) I just remembered how labbie cared for me nung mga times na umuuwi ako ng madaling araw galing sa malayong lugar:)). I just realized kung paano siya nagcacare nung hindi pa ako nagtetext sa kanya at pag-uwi ko pa lang nasagot tawag niya na umiiyak pa.:) (sorry labbie:* )  Wala lang.:) simple things that make me feel so loved:'> Thank you benedict:) Gusto ko lang ipaalam sa kanila na naaalagaan ako ng maayos ng taong mahal ko.:) (CHEESY POTEK) hahahaha:))


I love you:)

chakas♥

""Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest,who came first in ur life or who cares the best. Its all about who came & never left."

I love you girls. Thank you. We've been classmates for four years pero I got to know all of you just a year ago. Alam niyo naman lahat ng nangyari at thank you for the warm welcome sa group.:) at dahil jan iisa-isahin ko kayo..:))(Alphabetically arranged):)) hahaha

Phem: Baaabe:) Thank you.. Hindi ko matandaan pano tayo naging close pero ang alam ko lang, nacucutean ako sayooo dati:) hahaha.. (tomboy) haha. joke lang. Mejo nag-umpisa sa New yorker ung kacute-an mo e:) mang roger the best.. tapos hanggang naging totoong babae ka na tracy turnblad:) (oh I know Tracy Turnblad! good for you girl you got on the show!- lil Inez) hanggang nabuo ang tropang san andres:) at hanggang ngayon, eto pa din.:) Isa sa mga taong pinagkakatiwalaan ko. sobra. alam mo na ung mga panahong yun..Thank you sa lahat babe at sa negosyo nating kape:)) haha.. ipagpatuloy natin habang unemployed pa tayo.. malapit lang naman ang bahay natin sa isa't isa:) tumblingan nalang:)  Thank you sobra. mamimiss ko ang pagsabay natin papasok ng school, ang pang-paparanoid sa akin at lahat ng ka-everan:)) haha..Basta babe, no matter what, always remember that happiness is a choice. I know that's one of the lessons you've learned.  Thank you. I LOVE YOU JENEFER BALGOA:)

Karen: Tropang Karen:)) Thank you walang sawang pagpapayo. alam ko kahit yung iba pa-joke pero I know, it's for me. Natatandaan ko we became close nung college algebra days.:) seatmate e at walang ginawa kundi tumawa at magchismisan:) I'll miss that.:) Shet tropang karen mamimiss kita.. pag pauwi, hindi pa dapat magbayad sa jeep pagkasakay. dapat, pagdating palang ng St. Anthony. :)) Hindi ko maintindhan bakit dapat ganon. hahaha:)) Naging rule lang un sa tropang san andres. hahaha:)) Ang ngiti mong nakakamatay, at hindi nagbabago, ipagpatuloy mo lang yan:) at alam kong uunlad ang career mo dahil sa exposure mo sa soco. I'm such a proud friend:) haha. thank you tropang karen:) Stay in love:) at wag masaydong maikli pasensya.:)) at please pakibagalan ng onti ang pagsasalita:)) hahaha.. Thank you.. I LOVE YOU KAREN CAMBRONERO:)

Cess: Munk:) I have known you since audition ng verge:) bangis mo e:) dun mo ko napasaya e:) hanggang naging classmates tayo..:) tapos walang katapusang batian sa class. at syempre kulitan.:) minsan wag maging seryoso masyado aa?:) Mahal ka ng mga tao sa paligid mo. trust them:) nalulungkot lang ako na wala ng tatawag sa kin ng "chip" pag nakita ako naglalakad kahit saan. kasi alam ko dun ka na sa pampanga.. pwede ka pa magbago ng isip.. please:) haha.. Kahit saan man tayo makarating, just always remember the people around you.. They love you. Dito lang ako anytime,:) I LOVE YOU PRINCESS RIO CANLAS:)

Rachel: Ang taong pag nagsalita, tagos sa puso:)) hahaha.. I can't forget yung mga sinabi mo sa akin nung time na umiyak ako datii.. alam mo na yun. iba ang tama sa puso ko ee. haha.. Feeling ko una at huling bonding natin yung nung monday:) hahaha.. Pero i'm glad na meron syempre.:) diba? haha. thank you rachel.:) Always stay happy:) I LOVE YOU RACHEL CORTEZ:)

Riya: _ _ _ _ _ mate!:) haha. bawal buuin magagalit si randy.:) well, may ever-kulit at daldal na seatmate..:) Pag alpahabetical order ang seating arrangement, ay lagot na..:)) haha.:) Ang sobrang memories natin nung summer 2010 ee. Customer Relations at French:) Ang pareho nating pagiging bingi at pangungulit kay madame gigi.:) Pag sa french, dapat ready pag sa exams at quizzes:) jan ang bonding moments natin e:) haha. :) Sabi ko nga kay rachel, ang last bonding ata ntin ay nung monday.:) lalo na tayo na naiwan lang:)) haha.. thank you _ _ _ _ _ mate:) sooobra.. mamimiss kitaaa.. I LOVE YOU ROSARIO DE GUZMAN:)

Ahr: We were not given the chance to know each other well pero thankful ako kasi sa short time na yun, naging mabuti kang friend.:) Thank you ahr.:) Thank you sa mga advice mo sa akin nung mga panahong nasaktan ako.:) feeling ko ung mga advice na un, dapat mo ding iapply sayo.:)) love you! hahaha:* Ingat ka jan palagi ahr:) bumalik ka din dito para masaya..:) miss you..:) I LOVE YOU SARAH JANE FRONDA:)

Jo: omaigaaad:) my dearest tombots:) hahaha.. feeling ko andami2 na nating pinagdaanan sobra.. feeling ko mga 25 years na tayong friends:)) hahaha.. Naalala ko we became first friends nung first day of classes. sabi ko pa noon, shet may friend ako kamuka ni kyla.:)) ngayon pag iniisip ko eew nalang:)) hahaha.. :* hindi tayo magkasection first sem kaya hanggang first day lang ang pagiging friends:)) haha.. ayon. pinagtagpo ulit landas natin nung envi sci:) haha.. feeling ko ang hinhin mo! sobra. ewaan, pag nga naman binbiro ka ng tadhana o. ahahaa:)) tapos aun hanggang batian sa corridors at class. tapos hanggang hairspray. Na itinuring na tatay ni inez:) haha.. may pagkamalandi kasi si mudrabel ko hindi ko alam sino tatay namin e:)) haha.. inangkin mo nalang.. nasanay talaga ko na dadi tawag sayo. tomboy ka kasi talaga ee.:) tapos hanggang mabuo ang bells family at unti2 ng nageevolve ang tawagan natin. ikaw na si baby dear:) haha.. summer 2010 din un nung naging close tayo.:) hindi ko alam panu nagumpisa pero bsta bigla kitang tinuksong tomboi:) yan na tawag ko sayo.:) hanggang ikaw din at tumira ka na sa amin. ang usapan ilang days lang:) at tumagal ng hanggng first sem ng 4th year.:) Well, lahat ng nangyri, i know plan ni Lord yun.:) Kasi we're like sisters now:) ung iba kong ssbhn sa mahabng letter nalang.:) 

Thank you tombot:) I LOVE YOU JOANNA MARIE LUNA:)

Niña: Kapaatid:) graaabe..isa pa sa mga taong sobrang pinagkakatiwalaan ko, sobra sobra ang utang na loob ko sayo.:)) haha.. naalala ko lang dati nung sembreak, theater days pa.. wala lang:) grabe kuya talaga kita e:) You will always be my one and only poging kuya seaweed:) hahaha:) Thankful ako kase nagkaron ako ng katulad mo, dream ko ang magkaron ng kuya ee and you fulfilled it:) hahaa:* babaw ng pangarap e:)) pano nga tayo naging close? Una dahil sa verge:) pero hindi pa sobrang close. Hairspray talaga umpisa e. hanggang sepulturero ng tsp at nagtuloy-tuloy naa.:) Naalala kong nakapagsinungaling ako kay bene para  lang samahan ka uminom at damayan ka sa kalungkutan mo.:) alam ko na ang tungkulin ko dati palang. halakhak na ko tlga e:)) hahaha.. Naalala ko tandem with reg e:) nakakatawa kayo e kung makaipit sa akin nung nagkaconflict kayo.:) ibang klase.. hahaha:* pero masaya ako sa mga panahong yun.:) Thank you kuya:) sobraaaaaa..:* I LOVE YOU NIÑA MAE MENDIOLA:)

Dea: hahaa:) classmates since first sem first year:) iba bangis mo nun dea ee:)) hahaa.:* alalahanin mo matatawa ka:)) Thankful ako kasi  nakakabiruan kita and I get to know you well:) hahaha:) Pagdating sa real world, wag na pikon masyado aaa? mahrap na at hindi pa natin sila kakilala masyado.. Ingatan mabuti si "kevin" hahaha:)) mamimiss kita:) Thank you palagi dea..:) I LOVE YOU ANDREA LOUISE NICOLAS:)

Mitch: mudrabeeel:) haha.. naalala ko nung earlier years plang, mejo natatarayan ako sayo. taray e! kainis:)) haha. hindi nagpapatalo. Syempre ang formation ng friendship ay nung hairspray days:) Dahil mahal kitang inay, mahal nga talaga kita(ano?) hahaha:)) thank you mudrabel:) Always choose to be happy okay? Hindi ko talaga malimutan ung umiinom ka one-on-one with mucho. hahaa:)) ibang klase sa inuman ee:)) antatag:)) hahahaha:* "baby, kiss your mom"- mitch. "ha? i dont call my mother, mom. I call her mudrabel"-r.a... Kinausap ako ng lasing. ayaaan:)) hahaha. thank you mudrabel. I ll miss youuu:* I LOVE YOU MICHELLE JOY PATINGO:)

Joyce: Cinnamon:) haha.. Like tombot, we became first friends nung first day ng classes.:) aun. hanggang dun lang ulit. tapos hnggang naging classmates:) naging close nung summer 2010:) tapos nung media mgt natin na sobrang nakapagbond tayo:) haggang nakatulog kami ni tombot sa inyo:) graabe:) ambilis lang ng panahon.:) I admire you cinnamon. You don't brag pero you're good in everything you do.:) I know you'll do good in the real world. Thank you cinnamon..:) I'll miss your kaingayan ever:) I LOVE YOU JOYCE LYNN VILLAREAL:)

"You can count on me like one, two, three, I'll be there and I know when I need it
I can count on you like four, three, two ,And you'll be there 'cause that's what friends
Are supposed to do.."   I'll miss you girls:) see you again.:) 

TSP♥

        Di ko lam pano uumpisahan pero thankful ako kasi andito ako sa pamilya na masarap mahalin. Eversince I started college, I never thought na mapupunta ko sa ganitong org. It never crossed my mind. Basta ang akin, tumangkilik at humanga sa bawat myembro ng Tanghalang St. Paul. After one and a half year, I can say na sobra akong naging masaya dito. Thankful ako kasi napasali ako at hindi ko makakalimutan lahat ng pinagdaanan ko dito.


          I was just an audience that time. haha:)) supporter lang ako ni benedict para sa minor play ng feb 2010. Then, Momi Ishie, the director,asked me and niña kung pwede kaming maging dancers/angels for the play.. Onti lang exposure nun pero go kami kasi we're not after the exposure naman. haha:))  Mas lumawak ang pamilya dahil nadagdagan kami ng maraming-marami. Workshops, team building, sobra2ng memories ang iniwan sa puso ko nun.Until Sepulturero jr. came.:) Kahit from ojt, pupunta ng school for the rehearsal.:) May improvement sa role in fairness:) Angels pa din kami pero madami ng exposure(as in super dami) with colorful wigs(aww) haha:)) One of the unforgettable moments sa buhay ko sa tsp. After ilang months, major play naman.:) Last production of the seniors.Re-staging of Alipin ng Aliw. Well, unexpected yung role ko.(hahahahaha) Hindi naman kasi ako palatawa masyado tas yung role ko si HALAKHAK.:) (o may magrereact) hhahaha:))) 


       After the major play, I therefore conclude na kaya kong gawin ang mga bagay na imposible para sakn dati, basta lang may determination at pagmamahal sa trabaho.:) Madami akong natutunan sa tsp:) Hindi lang kapal ng muka ang idinulot sa akin nito pero pati ang value ng mga tao sa paligid ko naituro sa akin.:) 


    Thank you sa lahat ng members, sa mga nakasama ko sa sepulturero sr.(Reg, cusi, mitch, angge, pierre,abby,jom,niña with ate sam and momi ishie), Sepulturero Jr.(Nathan,joy,kaye,jimmy,eunick, coycoy, jeremy, ena, mish, niña with abby, golDA and Momi Ishie), and Alipin ng Aliw(Momi Ishie, golDA, Jo, Niña, labbie, mitch, jimmy,denden,roxy,mish,aries, ranniel,josam, jeremy,lor,jom, neil,chesley,baby jessey, shiela, mel, eme, nyssa, mariel, abby, dj, joy, reg,maxene,kaye, drea,reg racho, pabo, jc, marie, Lorainne, pierre, abby lantano, blanche, valerie, coycoy, nette, ezra, kevin and of course our director, Ate R) buong tsp, super thank you.. 


Let's see again tsp family:) I love you everyone.:)

♥♥♥

• Let’s grow old together… beginning with today. 
• Let’s work slowly with each other and build a relationship that we can both enjoy being a part of. 
• Let’s share love and understand that neither of us is perfect; we are both subject to human frailties. 
• Let’s hold each other close and whisper though the night—pledging our love, honoring our commitment. 
• Let’s encourage each other to pursue our dreams, even when we’re weary from trying. 
• Let’s expect the best that we both have to give and still love when we fall short of our expectations. 
• Let’s be friends and respect each other’s individual personality and give one another room to grow. 
• Let’s be candid with each other and point out strengths and weaknesses. 
• Let’s understand each other’s personal philosophy, even if we don’t agree. 
• Let’s lie awake long into the night sharing our innermost secrets. 
• Let’s be friends as well as lovers. 
• Let’s laugh at time and plan with each other and wonder how we ever got along without this love we’ve found. 
• Let’s never take for granted these moments that we’ve shared, but always be reminded of how intensely we have learned to live, how completely we have learned to love. 
• Let’s grow old together… and look back on life and smile.

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